Some number of Saturdays ago I witnessed one of the
five seriously attractive women in Lawton, Oklahoma. By Houston nightclub standards she wasn't anything outrageously special, maybe a 9.1 face atop a 9.6 body.
But. Oh. My. God. The. Dress.
Certain aesthetic experiences of the feminine persuasion leave a mark on the properly reflective male soul, leading them to
set up websites or make
movies. This girl, in this dress, in this location deserves at least a poignantly tragic opera made infamous by its composer's frustrated-passion-induced suicide, but lacking any musical talent or good reason to kill myself at present, I'll have to do with this blog post.
She was slender, small breasted, walking on nearly perfect legs, with a pleasantly pretty but unremarkable face crowned by bronze hair in a rather adorable red ribboned twist. If I'd seen her in normal circumstances I would have given her a second or third look and not remembered her an hour later.
But in no normal circumstances does a woman wear a sheer satiny/lacey confection the color of blood mixed with wine and the length of sin trying to sneak in the church door. (The red and white polka dot platform shoes were kind of cute, too.) One certainly doesn't expect to see it at 12:30 pm on a Saturday at the back of a
Hastings in Lawton.
I wish I could describe in detail the subtle patterns that seemed layered on to the dress, or how the bodice was cut, or whether she was likely to be wearing anything underneath it. But really the dress doesn't signify much more than the girl. If I'd seen it on a plain woman, I would have dismissed it as a very nice brand of lipstick on a pig. If I'd seen it on a perfect sexpot, I would have (figuratively, alas) obliviously looked through the dress at the goddess beneath.
But for a guy who dislikes hair coloring, more than subtle makeup, and other forms of artifice, there's something magical and sublime about a pretty girl in a fantastic dress that creates some strange gestalt of loveliness and mystery whose whole is so vastly greater than the sum of its parts. Who
was she? What occasion on an early Saturday called for such a thing? Why on earth was she wearing it, however briefly, for a walk through the religious aisle of a not very nice books/CD/DVD chain?
I'll never know. When I stumbled home hours later my roommates wondered why I (still) had a dazed expression on my face. I had a hard time explaining why I didn't say something to her, offer her some compliment or comment. Beyond the fact that I never, ever do such a thing, which always strikes me as the grossest form of imposition on a woman who should be able to go about her business without be accosted by every admiring man she encounters, I certainly wouldn't have done so in this case. Myths, like humankind, cannot bear too much reality. I'd much rather keep my melancholy ignorance, thank you very much.
All of which is a very long winded and somewhat indirect way of saying that I am reasonably sure Italian Girl is married, has been for some time, and for some inexplicable reason didn't see fit to mention this fact when I saw her a couple of months ago.
Given her usual pattern of ignoring me for months after every meeting and the (post-coworker phase) unprecedented experience of three very long such encounters over my post-OCS leave, I'm not due to hear from her next until perhaps June 2008. But desiring to discover whether she'd returned alive from her early September trip to Africa, I did some creative googling and discovered the surprisingly comprehensive
photo gallery of the monthly techno dance party that her husband(!?) co-founded years ago.
That led to me a
picture in the June gallery of them embracing with a very prominent wedding band displayed on his hand. Further googling uncovered a myspace page (I'm not so far gone as to link
that) for the husband (!?) where he describes himself as "married" and a friend's comments make reference to the "wifey" returning from the Africa trip. Another semi-ambiguous comment notes: "Hey, working on wedding trip photos... can't seem to download yours and [Italian Girl's]."
I'm reminded of an occasion about five years ago when she lied to me at work about what she'd done that weekend. I knew from a casual comment of her roommate, who also worked there, that she'd gone to Chicago to see her quasi-ex boyfriend. The only reasons I could imagine for such behavior were (1) she was crazy, (2)
she thought I was ????, (3) profit. I can only imagine some similar "thought" process was at work here, leavened by the fact I've suspected since picking up his vibe when I picked up the cat years ago, further strengthened by
this, that she's not really supposed to see me anymore.
Naturally, Italian Girl just called for the first time in months and interrupted with an hour and a half conversation, mostly to ask my advice on how to deal with her crazy mother who she would like to stop hating. Interesting factoid: IG alleged her boyfriend is somewhat intimidated by me because I'm taller, more confident, and sexier than he expected from someone who has lusted impotently after his girlfriend for so many years.
As far as I know (not very) he still commutes to San Antonio on weekdays, so hiding me from him, if that's what she did, wouldn't have been very difficult. I do wonder where she put her ring, though. I definitely would have noticed it when I held her hands across the table that time. I will say, though, that not all my surprises during this bit of internet sleuthing were unpleasant. While I loved the
long hair, I quite like the
short, as well.
Hmmm. Does anyone know a good course on opera composition?
Addendum: I had some years past expressed
this opinion regarding the more or less inevitable event, but I'm quite sure simple
notification was not even implicitly discouraged, let alone forbidden.
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